I’m sitting here on a work-from-home day, planning things out, enjoying my tea in my new favorite mug (that I won in a giveaway from @shampooslingin )... and I’m realizing all over that, while being a network marketer has NOT been what i thought it would be... I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Have I made money hand-over-fist? ha-ha... no.
Do I have thousands of followers who hang on my every word? Hrmph. Also no.
But you know what has happened? Little old introverted me who really hates striking up a conversation with a stranger IRL... has made friends! I’ll probably never meet most of you face-to-face, (and maybe we’re only BFFs in my head) but I am so thankful for the connections I’ve made and the friendships that are developing.
Also, side note— i follow a lot of people who don’t necessarily think like I do... and it has made me a stronger thinker. I would HIGHLY recommend following/reading/being friends with people who believe differently than you, think differently than you, and live differently than you. I’ve learned so much from all of you, and I’ve grown.
So Thank You!!! to everyone who follows me, interacts with me— you really do make this crazy ride of social media and network marketing so much better!
I thought I’d done really well, avoiding the comparison game of social media.
I was wrong.
I thought “I’m not comparing my life, my looks, my house, my marriage... I’m good!” You know what I was comparing????
My productivity. I was looking at all the women in my company who are rockstars— busy moms with full schedules and a super successful business— and I was beating myself up because I’m not productive like them. And I didn’t catch myself at it until it was almost too late because “productivity is a good thing.” And yes, it is. And yes, it’s. weakness of mine. But comparing my life and my difficulties with productivity to what I saw on social media— that was a terrible idea.
This post really isn’t about how I’m learning or not learning to be more productive. It’a about how insidious the comparison game can be— even when we think we’ve escaped.
How do you find yourself comparing? Is there anything you do to combat it?
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I went out to dinner last night with my husband and my parents.... looking like this. And I’m a makeup saleswoman.
I realized the other day that it might seem (because i sell makeup), like I think everyone should wear it. And I don’t!! I don’t even wear it every day... and that’s ok. And it doesn’t make me a failure as a makeup person.
I love makeup— I love playing with it. I love the colors. I love the before and afters.
But I don’t think it’s necessary. Either to make someone socially acceptable, or to make someone pretty.
You can be beautiful without makeup. You can be an adult without it. And I don’t EVER want someone to follow me and think that I’m telling you that you NEED makeup.
I wear makeup because it’s fun for me. Because I feel a little more confident with it on (I also have a pair of sassy boots that gives me the same feeling). But if you don’t like wearing makeup. If you feel more insecure with it on. if you feel disingenuous with it on. That’s OK!! I’ll do a post later (probably) on what I think makes a person beautiful.... but here’s what I want to end with...
If you follow me, but never buy anything from me— that’s ok!! I’m not here to see dollar signs instead of people.
If you are insecure with makeup, want tips and tricks, but can’t afford or don’t want to use what I sell— That’s ok too!! I would love to help you use what you already have! I have so much fun with makeup— no matter what kind!
And if you are interested in revamping your routine and makeup kit, well then... you know what to do!
Jeffrey had the jeweler engrave "Prov. 31:10-31" on my ring. Because that's how he sees me-- as the Proverbs 31 woman. 😭😍Right?
But I was thinking one day about that... and I realized that the Prov. 31 woman does not exist in a vacuum... she has a husband. A Proverbs 31 husband.
What does that look like?
Well, first a disclaimer.... I'm not a historian. I don't know what the lives of Jewish women were like when Proverbs was written. I know that Israel was probably one of the most forward-thinking nations when it comes to women at the time, but I'm pretty sure that the man was still the ultimate authority in his house and could make any rules he wanted.
This man supports his wife-- she is going out, buying supplies, running a house-- and he permits it. She has everything she needs to do what she does well. I would also venture that he gave her freedom to try (and even fail at) new things-- considering the scope of what the text says she is capable of, I'm guessing she was an experimenter.
Given that, the text says that her husband trusts her. Yes, she has earned that trust, no doubt, but he gave her the opportunity to earn it. I'm sure we all have had someone who simply refused to trust us, without ever giving us a chance to prove ourselves trustworthy.
It also says that her husband praises her, and calls her blessed. I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that he probably spoils her rotten, too. It says her clothing is silk and purple-- we know she is a financially savvy woman. I'm thinking she may not have bought that silk and purple for herself. He is not a man who takes her talent, skill, and dedication for granted.
Her husband is a well-respected, honored member of society (it's convoluted, kind of, but that's what it means when it says "he is know in the gates"). He's not a free-loader.
Nor is he intimidated by her-- the chapter ends with "let her own works praise her in the gate"-- in his arena, his place of business, he doesn't take credit for what she does or try to outshine her. He is willing to let her be who she is and be recognized for it.
And that is my Jeffrey to a T.
How’d I get so lucky?
In the midst of my mega-meltdown yesterday, I had a breakthrough.
I don’t know if you’re aware of this, but a lot of MLM’s talk a lot about “finding your why”— or why you are doing this. It’s a good thing to know no matter what you’re doing in life.
I thought i knew what my “why” was... I wanted to generate enough income to leave my part-time job and start the FingerLakes Concierge. I still do.
But there was another why that I didn’t realize was there...
I wanted to validate my existence.
Now, before you jump in with all sorts of kind words and concern, you need to understand where this was coming from... I am essentially a stay-at-home-wife right now. My part-time job is very slow in the winter, and we are fortunate enough for me to be able to not have to have a second job right now. But I thought that meant that if i were able to stay home, I still had to prove that I was worth something by doing potentially income-producing activities. I have always defined my value by my job skills. And I felt guilty and ineffective and useless if the things I did once I got home weren’t productive, financially.
I know from an outside, rational perspective, that seems foolish. And now that I’ve identified it, it seems foolish even to me.
So that’s not my why anymore. I don’t know what the change it makes will look like. I’m still doing Maskcara, I’m still going to be posting (because i genuinely like doing it), but I’m no longer posting out of guilt or to prove myself. Because doing things for those reasons rarely turns out well.
So thanks for listening... thanks for putting up with my posts yesterday... I’m looking forward to what comes next.
This week's #flxfriday feature is Seneca Lake Design, a luxury event, floral design, and production firm. Run by husband-and-wife team Matthew and Liana Gebhardt, Seneca Lake Design focuses on planning, designing, and producing luxury events, ranging from weddings to corporate functions to academic/charitable galas.
After having lived and worked in NYC (classically-trained French chef Liana in high-end catering, and Matthew as the owner of a large event-design company) for over 10 years, they relocated to the FLX region, both for the change of pace and to be closer to family. Now, in addition to running Seneca Lake Design, they assist Liana's family in running Shalestone Vineyards, and run their own small farm.
Seneca Lake Design produces events all over the country, but also as far as Europe and the Bahamas. However, recently their attention has focused more on events and weddings held locally, both for local clientele and out-of-state customers. They source from a variety of local vendors, as well as a world-wide network of resources. Matthew and Liana also work behind the scenes with local companies to build and strengthen the infrastructure of the FLX business community so that, as interest continues to grow in the region, it can stay ahead of trends and demand.
Matthew and Liana are committed to aiding in regional recognition, economic growth, and raising the bar for FLX events, all while providing an exceptional experience for every client. "With us at Seneca Lake Design, the sky is the limit and we can [have] produce a world-class wedding in a beautiful and unique setting, using ample and unique local resources to create a memorable and substantive experience that you can find no where else! Many of the clientele we do have, are coming to get married in the Finger Lakes because they love the area. We often tell these clients that they are not only having a dream wedding here, but also directly investing in the future development area that they adore so much!"~Matthew Gebhardt, @sldny#fingerlakesevent#flxevents#flxweddings#senecalakedesign#sldny#eventdesign#genevany#flx#fingerlakes#senecalake#cayugalake#iheartflx#flxblogger
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I will be participating in IRONMAN Lake Placid on July 28, 2019 as part of the Multiple Myeloma Research Foundation (MMRF) Team For Cures.
The work ahead of me? Race 140.6 miles and raise at least $5,000 for the MMRF. Training for this event is a big challenge, but nothing compared to the challenges faced by patients with multiple myeloma.
Multiple myeloma is the second most common form of blood cancer. Over 30,000 people are diagnosed yearly with multiple myeloma and an estimated 12,000 are predicted to die each year from the disease.
I'm proud to be part of the ACTION that is helping fund and fuel important research: Thanks to the important work of the MMRF and our partners, the FDA has approved TEN new treatments in the time that it usually takes for ONE new drug to come to market. There are more treatment options in the pipeline.
This is so important because myeloma is a cunning disease which morphs through treatment, meaning patients often need new treatment options when they relapse.
The MMRF is one of the most highly regarded cancer foundations in the world. Nearly 90% of the total MMRF budget goes directly towards research and related programming. The MMRF is in the top 1% of all charities, having earned Charity Navigator’s 4-star rating for 16 years.
The Goal: Raise $5,000 for the MMRF!
Please support my participation in IRONMAN Lake Placid benefiting the MMRF. I have made a commitment to raise at least $5,000, and I need your help to get there. Please contribute whatever you can. It all adds up!
Please take this opportunity to give back and support this game-changing cancer organization.
"If my lips ever left my mouth, packed a bag and headed south, that'd be too bad. I'd be so sad."....
Anyone know that song? Anyone? Or is it just me and @jenna.cora over here still singing VeggieTales?
Aaaanyway..... I've fought with my lips for several years-- they get chapped really easily, and it frustrates me to NO END.
So, I thought I'd share a few things I've learned about lips and lip care.
1. Lips sunburn REALLY easily... and it's the pits. I'm not nearly as careful as I probably should be about sunscreen, but if i know I'm going to be outside, I definitely make sure I'm wearing a lipbalm that has SPF (it doesn't need to be expensive... there's a good one by Blistex).
2. Lips are very vulnerable to extreme heat. What do I mean? I used to be a cook, and standing over the range was like standing in the middle of the Sahara at high noon. Ok. maybe not quite... but it was bad. My lips were constantly chapped. And now, with the woodstove, I've realized that if I'm not careful when I'm loading the stove (and there's intense heat coming off the coals) my lips will chap. So beware extreme heat.
3. It's way too easy to overexfoliate your lips. I've done damage too many times by overscrubbing with a lip mask or a washcloth. My favorite exfoliant is Mary Kay's original (not the new shea sugar scrub) Satin Lips mask (and they don't make it any more 😭). 4. Expensive doesn't always mean better. Oh boy.... that's going to be a whole post at some point. But for now, I've used crazy expensive stuff, and I've used stuff I got at the dollar store. Find what works for you and then buy 10.
5. Speaking of which... check your pockets. Chapsticks do not fare well in the dryer.
So, first... if you haven't read "Let's All Be Brave" by @anniefdowns, you NEED to. It's amazing.
But I want to talk about this for a minute, because she nailed a concept that I talk about, in a very convoluted way, into a concise catchphrase.
I have often felt like life is like a series of stepping stones across a river.... That God doesn't show us the next step until we're standing there, one foot dangling out over nothing, "Ok God, I took that step, now where do I go?" And it's frustrating-- because I like plans. I like knowing where I'm going. But I'm finding the truth in the verse about our hearts choosing our way, but God directing our steps. (Proverbs 16:9) God gives us specific desires in our hearts, but then I think that I have to plan out the route to get there... when all God wants is for me to say "yes" to the next step that He's put in front of me.
I've been struggling lately, wondering if I'm doing this marketing thing right... this wife thing... this LIFE thing. But I keep realizing that I've said yes to the steps God has put in front of me, so therefore I MUST be where I'm meant to be, because they've led to TODAY.
So, I was listening the @msrachelhollis , and while it wasn't the point of her podcast, she did ask if we knew what five things make us happy. It took some thinking, but here's mine.
1. Time with Jeffrey. It really doesn't matter what we do... long drive, play games, talk... as long as we're together, I'm happy.
2. Create. I love to make things-- I can't draw to save my life, but I love making things-- Christmas ornaments, sewing... all of it.
3. Treasure hunting. Not with a metal detector. Treasure hunting as in finding new places to go, musicians, products, books, whatever, and then telling people about them.
4. Customer service. Coming from an introvert, I realize this is odd... but I love the customer service/ hospitality industry. Getting to take care of a customer and ensure they have a good experience is one of my thrills.
5. Reading. I don't do nearly enough of this, simply because I'm an addict. If I start a good book, I have to finish it-- and nothing else gets done. I've stayed up until 2 or 3 reading... and that's not a good thing for me!
Rachel Hollis's point was to make sure that you know what makes you happy, and then make sure to do it!
So, what about you? What are your five happy things?
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Guys, I feel the pounds creeping on as I write this! Our second #flxfriday feature is @waterloo_eats , an urban food hall opening soon in downtown Waterloo. If you're anything like me, you probably are wondering, "what on earth is an Urban Food Hall??" First of all, this is a new-ish concept that is beginning to crop up in larger metropolitan areas (IE New Orleans). It's essentially a space where independent food vendors have their own stalls-- indoors. Picture a permanent, indoor, food-truck rodeo.
So what about Waterloo Eats? It's the brainchild of Howard Friedman and Alex Teller, who fell in love with the area thanks to Lee Bieber of @stanswaterloo.
Apparently, they are not only brilliant entrepreneurs, but can write pretty darn well, so I'll let their words do most of the speaking--"With new exciting concepts like @flxwienery, @lakedrumbrewing, @cafe_nineteen, @monacoscoffee, etc.- the area is already seeing a renaissance to complement the growing wine reputation... we want to make Waterloo the destination it deserves to be to complement the region." Waterloo Eats will be on West Main Street in Waterloo (If you're a local like me, I'm sure you've seen the renovations happening). All the buildings will connect together, so that you can access every vendor without going outside (which sounds pretty good right about now). It will be "an informal rustic setting with high quality food at a modest price". Did you know that the FingerLakes has a burgeoning food truck population?? Yes we do, and it is DELICIOUS. Alex and Howard are looking unique, exciting beverage and food vendors-- if you are one or know one, contact them! I'm sure their space will fill up quickly!
I'm the sort of person that you don't want to go on a walk in the woods with... because I will stop and look at EVERYTHING. I think I've mentioned this before.
I was asking my bestie to help me figure out things about myself that were unique that I could start to build a "brand" (network marketing jargon) around, and talk about on here. She came up with all sorts of wonderful things about me that may or may not be true (she is an eternal optimist and finder of all the good in people), but she did have one point that I thought was actually true about me. I delight in details. In the tiny stuff that gets overlooked. Like these little blue flowers that i took a pic of years ago. The flowers are actually about the size of a pencil eraser, and they grow wild in most people's lawns.
I'm pretty sure that one of the secrets to happiness is to learn to delight in the details. I'm honestly not certain how I learned to, but I think i have a few tips for helping yourself to learn... First of all, you need to stop. How many times do you catch something out of the corner of your eye, but don't actually look to see what it is? Next time, stop and examine it.
Second of all, a camera helps... I don't know why, but going out to see what I can take pictures of really turns on my detail-goggles. That may be a good way to train your eye to start to see them more.
Third, learn to enjoy those details. So you've gone looking for details, you've found them... now you need to enjoy them. Examine them from every angle, ask questions about them, memorialize them if you can.... You've just found a treasure that most people never see. ~Sharing a few more detail shots in my stories/highlights today~
Well... I was all set to tell you today about my favorite multi-tasking makeup products... and then I hit the google.
Turns out, the official line on using eye products on lips, vice versa, or any swapping of features you choose, is not "a good idea". So I spent way too long on the FDA's website, looking at ingredients. And generally, the ingredients for lip cosmetics aren't listed as safe for eye cosmetics...
But you know what???? ( I was actually planning to write this rant about something else, but here goes...) There are way too many things in this life that *might* be bad... *might* be dangerous.... And I will keep burning the candles and putting blush on my eyelids, because they're only *mights*... and slight *mights* (in my estimation) at that. I will, however, not smoke tobacco, avoid high-levels of X-ray radiation, and not chew on paint chips-- because those things are pretty well-proven to be bad for you. But for so much of the other stuff, it's a personal decision. I'm not an expert on any of this-- so you have to make your own choice. Here's what I keep saying-- you need to do your own research! Don't ever take what someone says at face value (admittedly, sometimes we all have to just because we don't have time to fact check everything)... but do your own research and make your decisions based on that.
But if you want to see what I use for multiple purposes, check out my stories today (and my highlight after 24 hours.) #multitaskingmakeup#speedymakeup#iheartflx#reallife#doyourresearch
Given that one of my VERY IMPORTANT New Year's Resolutions was to do my nails every week, I thought I'd give you a quick run-down on how i do that. Tutorial is up in my stories (also highlights), and there's a product run-down below.
1. POLISH. Duh... Nail stamping requires at least 3 different polishes, although I recommend 4. You need a good basecoat (the one in the pic is American Classics Gelous)-- I'm 99.9% certain that a quality basecoat can make a cheap polish look like an expensive one. Then you need your color polish, and then a stamping polish. The best stamping polishes are actually specially formulate (I bought some really good ones from @mundodeunas) but Sally Hansen's instadry in Go for Gold also works really well. (TBH-- Google it, there's lots of random ones that work). Then you need a good top coat-- I like "out the door". And as you can see I buy the big bottle. I get my base and top coat from sally beauty.
2. Nail stamp, nail squishie, stamp scraper. Stamps and squishies are how you make the design and transfer it to the nail. I linked a few in my bio on the Amazon list-- read the reviews, as it can be a crap shoot. Or you can go the expensive and quality route and order them from @uberchicbeauty. For a scraper, you can use any kind of credit or store card
3. Latex tape-- you will get polish on your skin-- this stuff is like a peel-off liquid bandage. It's on the amazon list.
4. Pumper bottle and cotton ball grabber-- you'll need a way to maneuver nail polish remover (don't mess with anything other than pure acetone, BTW), and the grabber and pumper bottle are GOLD. They're linked on the amazon list, but Sally beauty is cheaper.
5. Lint roller. Yes, you read that right. There will be remnants of the design on the squishy, and the lint roller is perfect for cleaning it off between stamps.
So, go check out the video, and feel free to comment with any questions!