Today marks ten years since I officially came out of the closet and told my parents I'm gay. I'd come out to myself a few years before this and had embraced being gay, but this was the first time I'd told any friends or family.
I know some of you might be thinking, "ONLY ten years?? But, he had a signature pose when he was four??" Well, fear and shame are incredibly powerful emotions. Denial is too. Recognizing that everyone has their own journey to coming out, I've been able to accept the real regret I feel in not coming out in my teens or twenties and of the loss of well more than a decade of dating, love, happiness, self-acceptance -- of just living my truth.
Part of the way that I try to honor that regret is to live my life as authentically as I'm able and to be out and proud - as in really, really out. I'm hopeful that by being really, really out that I'm able to make it easier for other gay people around me to be out and proud in every aspect of their own lives and to help anyone else living in the closet to manifest their own courage and come out. I'm also hopeful that I'm able to help change the hearts and minds of straight people who interact with or live around me, and guide them to become informed allies and passionate advocates for the queer community.
I also recognize that not every LGBTQ person is as lucky as I am to have been embraced by friends and family for being gay. So, the next time you see an LGBTQ friend or family member please make it a point to remind them (or tell them for the first time) just how much you love them.
This photo of me was taken within an hour or so of getting married to Billy. I don't know that 30-year-old or 20-year-old John Blair (heck, even 4-year-old signature posing John Blair) could have ever imagined that moment could be possible. I'm so very grateful for Billy and for the life we've built together, and for the army of loving friends and family who have my back.
I'm gay and I'm so damn proud of it.
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Dr @ladylessons was creepin on me at the gym and now I know exactly what my stank face looks like 🥴👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Let’s turn those bicep molehills into mountains, Team!
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Even though you fall asleep during movies, wake up at the crack of dawn, and can lift heavier weights than me... I still want to live every day with ya. I love your passion for your career, your love of rock climbing, your dance moves, your adventurous spirit, and good taste in beer. Sometimes I wish I could fast forward to the future but then I’d miss the fun of the here and now. Thanks for being my best friend and biggest encourager. Thanks for reminding me each day of Gods love and getting up early for church on Sundays. Thanks for remembering every exam, quiz, and paper and always rooting for my success. Thanks for being patient with my schooling and understanding I’m working on bettering myself. Thanks for sending me songs that make you think of me to listen to while I study. But most importantly, thank you for being you. I couldn’t imagine having not walked up to you dancing in the corner and introducing myself. You make my life better! ☺️❤️
Despite losing motivation for the gym and my diet lapsing, I’ve still managed to lose weight these last 2-3 weeks. Since Christmas I’ve lost over 1.5 st, surpassed my weight goals and am happy with my body.
But my issues with food have only gotten worse. I starved myself to reach this weight and I throw up food if I think I’ve over-eaten to maintain it. Neither are healthy or long term solutions. This week I’m going to start going back to the gym to exercise and re-capture a positive body image, rather than rely on a negative view of myself to lose/maintain weight. #bulimiarecovery#bulimia#anorexia
I’ve been bullied ever since I was young because of the way I look and speak. Even as an adult I’m judged on a regular basis. I wouldn’t have guessed that I’d end up where I am today. Incredibly grateful to everyone who has supported me through these passed few years. I LOVE ALL OF YOU 💔 Thank you for keeping me strong ✨
Hello, my name is Caiden and I’m non-binary. For my entire life I’ve been uncomfortable with my body in regard to my gender. I’ve been on my journey of trying to understand my gender for about 3 years now. If you have been following me for a while you know I used to think I was ftm. But, after a while I realized that also was not right. From there I completely lost. I still tried to present as more masculine in order to feel more valid. I had this thought in my mind that to be non-binary i HAD to present as completely androgynous. I then realized that i did not WANT to leave my some feminine traits behind. I like to do my makeup and wear more feminine clothing sometimes. Although, I am very uncomfortable with my body. I plan on getting top surgery. I’m still undecided when it comes to hormone. For the time being I’m going to embrace my body. Im not going to loathe in self hatred. I can have dysphoria and not completely hate myself. Please stop making others not feel valid by pressuring them to present in a way that makes them uncomfortable. Support and love those who are confused instead of shaming them. 🌈